The Top 5 Reasons Your TRAINED Dog Is Still Not Listening
In this episode
So we meet a lot of folks that did e-collar training elsewhere and received ZERO instructions on what they should do at home. A lot of folks don't think it's important to limit their dog's freedom or challenge them, especially in the house, because their dog is "really good".
We spend 2-3 weeks with most dogs. We spend 2-3 hours with you. It isn’t fair to think you will be confident after just a few hours with us. You need to go out into the real world and do stuff. Seeing is believing!
But we have found that there are 5 specific things that really get in the way of results carrying over to the owners themselves. Those things are:
- The owners not getting the proper training. So we meet a lot of folks that did e-collar training elsewhere and received ZERO instructions on what they should do at home. Or they received very inaccurate instructions.
- Going into off leash situations without their long line before they are ready to. You’re still new to this! You need to practice and build confidence.
- Not following the instructions back home, especially the structure piece and accountability. A lot of folks don’t think it’s important to limit their dog’s freedom or challenge them, especially in the house, because their dog is “really good”. But that autonomy and lack of experience with respecting you and your boundaries will follow you outside!!
- Being afraid to turn up the heat and hold the dog accountable. Without enforcing the rules, they simply aren’t rules. And most of the things we are worried about are just in our heads. Which brings us to the last one..
- The story people tell themselves. Oh boy…do people know how to write a story! I find a lot of folks could be writing scripts for heart wrenching lifetime movies. People worry. And honestly, your brain and body wouldn’t be working right if you didn’t. That is normal! But you have to know when your brain is trying to protect you from a threat that isn’t real. Like your German Shepherd barking at the trash can in the yard because you moved it earlier and it’s now 3 feet to the left of where it was. Haha.
Don’t tell yourself that your dog is scared, confused, nervous, panicked, afraid, or even stubborn for that matter. Let the story go. Even if your dog is confused or panicked, or stubborn, it’s you being calm, assertive, and consistent that will get them through it.
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Minute-by-Minute Breakdown
- 00:00 – Kati Peppe welcomes listeners and asks them to subscribe.
- 01:00 – Episode frames five reasons owners still struggle despite trained dogs.
- 02:00 – Trainers often fail to support owners after they go home, causing unraveling.
- 03:00 – Number five: owners weren’t trained how to manage and maintain behavior.
- 05:00 – Without owner skills like accountability, even initially good dogs will likely unravel.
- 06:00 – Number four: owners put dogs into situations they and their dogs aren’t ready for.
- 08:00 – Always use a safety net like a long line until you gain confidence.
- 10:00 – No trainer can recreate every real-world scenario in a short go-home lesson.
- 11:00 – Practice with a long line until you can confidently drop it.
- 12:00 – Don’t go into complex environments off-leash immediately after a two-week program.
- 14:00 – Keep the same level of structure at home as taught during training.
- 15:00 – Use kennel, place, down, and heel to keep focus and rehearse obedience.
- 18:00 – Require polite behavior at the door and during departures without extra commands.
- 19:00 – If dogs go ‘bananas’ at home, that arousal follows and destroys outside reliability.
- 20:00 – Number two: owners are afraid to ‘turn up the heat’ and enforce consequences.
- 22:00 – Confronting unwanted behavior may be uncomfortable but it reduces issues quickly.
- 28:00 – Owners invent stories about dogs being ‘confused’ to justify not enforcing rules.
- 36:00 – Consistent structure and accountability usually resolve confusion and anxiety over time.
Episode transcript
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00:00 — Kati Peppe introduces Off Leash and Unfiltered and asks listeners to subscribe.
Welcome to Off Leash and Unfiltered. Trigger warning. I'm Kati Peppe, delivering the truth in dog training.
Hey everybody, this is your host, Kati Peppe. Before we jump in, I just wanted to take a quick second and remind you to hit the subscribe button because that helps us so, so, so much. We appreciate every subscribe and follow, and we have so much valuable information we wanna share with you. So we don't want you to miss an episode. Without further ado, let's jump in. Hey everyone, thanks for being here. Have a good one for you today, I think, um, because we are talking about the top five reasons that people continue to struggle with their dogs even after the dog is trained.
So a lot of times people will ask me about this before they sign up, and, um, I'm always very honest. And the fact is that, yeah, some people still <laugh>, some people still have a hard time with their dogs when they go home.
Um, but not usually, um, you know, not to a serious extent or anything, but, you know, and of course if people need more help, we give 'em more help. Um, but it's actually pretty rare that that really happens because most of the time when people are struggling, you know, hopefully they reach out to, to me, and if they do, I'm usually able to tell them right away what the tweaks are they need to make, and then they start to see the change. Um, but so I have to imagine there are, there are always folks out there that don't reach out.
And I know there are folks out there that have done other training programs that are in, uh, that boat where they're still having a hard time with their dog, and oftentimes they don't get the support from the trainer after they go home, which is a shame because you pay for a program.
Um, and as long as you're committed and you're trying, uh, you should see some results. It doesn't mean your dog's gonna be perfect, you know, and in some cases your goals might be unrealistic, but most of the time I find that's not the case. People are usually very realistic about the things that they want from their dog and what that their dog is capable of. So if you have continuing issues with your dog, even after your dog is quote unquote trained, this one's for you. And I have to imagine everybody does to some extent, right?
No one's, no one's gonna be perfect. The owners aren't perfect, the dog's not perfect. So I think most people, at least in very specific scenarios, probably have, um, some questions about what they could be doing better. And so here we go. Number one, <laugh>. This is, um, we'll say number five, right?
03:00 — Reason five: owners were not taught how to maintain their dogs’ training.
We're gonna count down, but this is probably the most common thing we see when we get dogs that have already been e-collar trained. Um, but the training was done somewhere else. We hear this over and over and over again. Number five, the owners weren't trained. So we're not gonna spend a ton of time on this one because there's not a lot you can do about it right off, right? I mean, obviously you have to go learn, um, is, is the answer. But a lot of training programs out there, they focus just on the dog and they never teach the owner, um, what they have to do.
And I mean that it could be laziness, it could be that they, they like dealing with dogs, but they don't like dealing with people. Or it could just be ignorance that they don't understand that just because you train the dog.
I hate to say that, I hate to think that. Like there are, are people out there training dogs as a profession that won't get this concept? And I don't think there are many, but I'm sure there are some, um, that think, you know, once you train the dog, that's it, the dog's trained. Um, but the fact is there has to be accountability, right? And so if the owner doesn't know how to provide that, then it all kind of goes out the window <laugh>. So, so that is a really, really common one. Uh, just because your dog is trained, you also have to be trained, folks. It's so, so important.
I tell people all the time, like, I can train your dog until they're absolutely golden, you know, with me, um, in my car, in my house when I'm their handler, right? But I absolutely, positively cannot train your dog to listen to you.
I can't do it. I can give your dog the skills, but you have to learn how to hold your dog accountable. You have to learn how to work your specific dog through their challenging situations. You have to know how to use the mode of communication with your dog that we've been using. If you don't know any of those things, then it's probably going to unravel, right? Even if your dog is good at first, it's probably gonna unravel because they're gonna start to notice things are different and that's normal. So you have to be trained. That's just as important as your dog being trained.
And that's why if you do a program with us, you do a board-and-train with us. We spend like three hours with you when your dog goes home. Um, and then we have you back for a follow-up lesson, which is usually about an hour. So a total of about four hours with you guys. Um, and if you need more, we give you more. So your training is super important, too. Number four, four and five go together. So number four, people put themselves in situations.
All right?
07:00 — Reason four: owners put themselves and their dogs into situations they are not ready…
So number four and number three have some overlap. They're pretty tied together. But so number four is people will sometimes put themselves and their dogs in situations they're not ready for you. And what do I mean by that? I mean, the dog is trained, right? We take the dog, we train them, but they're not gonna be perfect. I mean, we're talking usually about programs where I have the dog for two weeks. Okay? Let's take a minute, <laugh> and just, um, internalize the fact, right? And acknowledge the fact that it's just two weeks, right? There's no magic wands, <laugh>.
Two weeks is not a lot of time. We can teach your dog a ton in two weeks, right? But they're not gonna be perfect. They're not gonna be robots. And people tell me all the time, they don't want them to be robots. It's like, okay, I spent two weeks with your dog.
They're not a robot. <laugh> That means that you need to go into those situations with a safety net. Meaning, until you get really good at how to do this stuff, how to communicate with your dog, how to hold them accountable, how to use the equipment, we give you the e-collar. Um, you should have a safety net, a long line on your dog, right? So we tell people, if you wanna have your dog off leash on the beach, go practice on the beach. If you wanna have your dog at the park, go to the park. You wanna have your dog on the trail, go to the trail on a long line, right?
Not because your dog isn't trained enough to be off leash, but because you need practice, you need practice. And it just isn't practical for us to come with you in all of those situations, um, and show you everything hands-on, right?
We show you at the training center, uh, we're very informative, we're very thorough, we're very detailed, but there's no way, even if we did go out into the world with you for that go-home lesson, and I used to do them at the park, and that's fine. There's no way for us to generate every possible scenario you're gonna run into. We just can't do it. There's no way to do it. Just like we can't do it when your dog is here, right? I can challenge your dog in a million different ways, but you're gonna find a million more when you go home, right?
Because it's a big world with a lot going on. Um, we might expose your dog to bikes, strollers, shopping carts, right? But when you go home, you're gonna have like the clown on a tricycle that comes barreling at you. Like, who knows? <laugh>
Stuff happens, right? Off-leash dogs and um, just anything, right? So there's no way for us to first of all expose your dog to everything, but also show you every single scenario that can occur. There's no way for us to do it, guys. So you have to take some responsibility when your dog goes home to take all those instructions we gave you and take all those things we showed you and go out into the world and try it and play with it and experiment with it, and keep that long line on your dog until you feel really good.
10:00 — Building confidence can take days, weeks, or months before progressing beyond a long line.
And for some people, that's the next day or that day even. And that's fine. That's great. If you're comfortable and confident and you're seeing your dog be super responsive, wonderful, right? But for some people it takes a few days. It takes a few weeks. For some people it takes months.
And there are some people with those dogs that can just never really be trusted off leash, but that's super rare. Um, those dogs aren't that common. Um, but you know, the idea is you put that long line on your dog and you can hang onto it at first, and then a little bit later if things are going really well, you can let them drag it. Um, so then you're really, that's where the magic really happens, is once you're confident enough to drop that long line and your dog is now just dragging it, they're essentially off leash and you have relinquished that control, right?
And so now you get the real practice of just controlling your dog's behavior with this, um, and seeing it with your own eyes and seeing really is believing. And I think sometimes people have a really hard time with that 'cause it's scary.
It's scary. But what you don't wanna do, and this really is what number four is, is you don't want to just take your dog to the park with no long line 'cause you're not ready, unless you are, right? But every once in a while we'll get that, um, message from someone that they went into this situation and it went sideways. And it's like, well, if you haven't practiced that environment with your long line on, right? If you haven't gone out into these crazy places with your long line on, why are you in them with your long line off?
We don't tell anybody to do that. We, especially after just a two-week program, we never say, okay, take your dog, take your dog, go into an environment where there's lots of distractions, um, totally off leash. You don't need a safety net and hope for the best, right?
No. It's like you are still learning how to get behaviors with this and provide your dog accountability with this. Um, and the fact is, you're gonna miss it. Sometimes you're gonna be slow, sometimes you're gonna be low, sometimes you're gonna be high, sometimes, right? You're going to make mistakes. And if you have no safety line on your dog, it's not gonna be very forgiving, right? So e-collar training is very forgiving. Um, you can make lots of mistakes and you're not gonna mess up your dog, but you can lose control of them if you don't know what you're doing, right?
13:00 — Owners must practice using the equipment rather than expect trainers to prescribe one e-collar…
And even though we gave you the information, it's a lot to take in. And the fact is, we can't tell you what number you need. We can't tell you that. You have to go out and practice to get comfortable with it. There is no other way to do it.
And so we tell everyone, keep that line on until you feel good, then take it off. And that might be right away, or it might take you a little while and that's okay. Okay? But so number three, like I said, there's gonna be some overlap here, is not following the instructions <laugh>, right? So keeping your dog on the line is part of the instructions, but there are a whole slew of instructions we send you home with. So let's talk about what those are and where we see, um, the most issues coming in, where we see people, um, kind of shooting themselves in the foot.
So when we send dogs home from a board-and-train, we tell everybody to pick up right where we left off with the same level of structure in their home. Now, is this make or break? Not necessarily, but for some dogs it is. And we just find that people have a much, much higher rate of success when they do this. And so we tell everybody to do it because what it does is it keeps your dog in a good frame of mind when they go home instead of going, woo hoo, I'm a monkey. Now all the rules are out the window.
Um, it keeps them in that same working, respectful, calm state of mind, which is gonna make things easier, and it's gonna help you build your new relationship with them. And that's really what this is, guys. You're building a new relationship with your dog, right?
So we want that high level of structure in place, meaning your dog isn't autonomous right now. They're not roaming around your house, they're not making their own decisions. We want you really, really using your kennel, using your place command, using your down command, using your heel command, and really spending a good chunk of time telling your dog what to do. Because number one, it, it keeps your dog in a good frame of mind. But number two, it gives you rehearsal, right? So we can say, yeah, your dog gets practice all day every day. And that's true, but so are you, so are you, right?
Because it's gonna be different for you. It's gonna be hard for you. Um, and you have to always be telling your dog what to do and enforcing it and providing the accountability and catching the mistakes. And so you are the one that's getting the practice there.
That's our tricky way of giving you rehearsal, right? Is using that structure. But it does keep your dog in a good state of mind too. But some of the other things, um, that are part of our instructions are the long line, like we, we talked about a minute ago, and just not taking that off until you feel really good about it. Um, and I think, you know, back to that again, I think one of the mistakes there is that people tend to go out on the long line in their yard and it's like, okay, like that, you should do that.
16:00 — Practice with a long line in the environments you plan to visit, not just…
But then they go to the park off leash, and that's not what we mean. We mean go to those environments you want your dog to be in on the long line, okay? At home is probably the least important place to have the safety net.
We still want you to do it there too. Um, but just rehearsing at home will not give you the skill or the confidence to go to the beach with your dog. <laugh> If you want your dog to run on the beach, then you need to go to the beach with them on the long line so you can get a feel for what that looks like. And then you're good, right? Once you know, you know. Um, but like I said, seeing is believing, but some of the other instructions, um, are like providing that accountability at home.
So, you know, people tend to let that go because it's easy or because it's not a problem or because they don't mind. And it's like, okay, but this is where you're building the relationship with your dog. It starts inside your own four walls, right? So even though your dog might be well behaved, I'm not saying your dog's a bad dog.
I'm not saying they're outta control. I'm not saying any of those things. I'm just saying you want to build the relationship starting inside your own four walls, right? You wanna put your dog on place, you wanna provide a real correction if they break it, right? So I'm doing that when your dog is with me, and we've built a relationship that is predicated on, I do what this lady says, and I have to, right? And I can still have fun, but when she says so, right? And I always listen to her and like, that's the thing people want, they want their dog to listen to them.
And it's like, okay, that starts in your house. So ask your dog to do hard things inside your four walls. Put them on place for three hours, put them on place when someone's coming through the door and provide accountability when they screw up.
Uh, require that they're polite when you're walking out the front door without commands, right? That's the instruction. No commands, no leash management, no sitting, no waiting. Expect your dog to be polite going out the door. Expect your dog to be polite when you feed them without command. That's part of the instruction. So all of this stuff goes a very long way to building a relationship of trust, fairness, accountability, predictability, right? And that follows you outside. But if everything's easy inside and your dog just roams around all the time and they just do what they want, or God forbid they break commands and you let it go, that will also follow you outside, right?
19:00 — Kati connects excessive excitement during homecomings, guest arrivals, and feeding with reduced responsiveness outside.
If you come home and your dog goes absolutely fucking bananas, if guests come in and your dog goes bananas, if you feed your dog and they go bananas, like that stuff follows you outside.
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Number two, this is a big one. People are afraid to turn up the heat <laugh>. And there's some overlap between number two and number one. Um, people are afraid to turn up the heat to provide the accountability, and we just have found that a lot of dogs, not to mention any specific breeds, goldendoodles, <laugh>, I'm kidding, of course, like this could be any dog, but we just, we see <laugh>, we see it a lot, uh, with the goldendoodles. They're clowns, um, and everything's kind of a game, uh, to them. That's really common. But, uh, it, it happens across the board, trust me.
So, but people are afraid, they're afraid to turn up the level on their e-collar. They're afraid to really enforce rules for a variety of reasons. Um, it's, it's just nerve-wracking, right? Nobody wants to hurt their dog. We don't wanna hurt your dog either, right?
But the fact is that sometimes it's going to need to be really uncomfortable, but chances are, once you've had a couple of those conversations with your dog, they're going to reduce drastically, right? It's just people try to, they try to get the reliability and the behavior from their dog without ever having a conversation. And with a lot of dogs, that's just not gonna work. They're gonna run roughshod right over you. Um, and we've seen that. We saw it recently. We had a dog go home, was a pretty sensitive dog, definitely wanted to do his own thing, but was pretty easy to dial in once we had the conversation with him and once we provided the accountability, right?
But he went home and they're having kind of a hard time in certain situations because he probably isn't taking them seriously. That's what we usually see.
They just, they have a history with the owners, right? Of this isn't what we do here. This isn't what we do in this house. This isn't what I do. We, you, um, I do my own thing. And so they just slip right back into that and they try to just do their own thing. And it is like, if nobody is willing to draw a line in the sand—hey, down. Sterling's on place. I just caught her kind of standing up, watching the pug. She was, I think, thinking about coming off there, <laugh>. So yeah, of course dogs will say, oh, no, no, no, I don't do any of this stuff for you.
Right? It doesn't mean they don't know it. And Joyce always says it really well in the go-home lesson. She says this, uh, to nearly everybody. She says, you just wanna remember when you go home, your dog knows all of these things. They're well practiced, they know how to do it. They know how to respond to the e-collar, like we've already trained them. Um, so if you go home and like your dog's not doing any of the stuff, they're not giving you these behaviors, it's something you are doing wrong, right? And that's not to pick on them, it's just you've gotta look at what you are doing and, and try some different stuff.
And so that's scary. But because you gotta experiment, you can't just stay in your comfort zone.
And so often, my first piece of advice to people, and I'll usually ask them questions first, like, what exactly are they doing? And how are you responding to that? And then what do you get when you respond that way? Um, but usually, and I mean like 90% of the time, people are just going a little too easy on their dog, right? So you have all those things we already talked about, about like, not using the structure, not using the safety net, um, at first, right? Um, but then there's the accountability piece and people are just afraid to turn up the heat and send the memo home.
And like, sometimes you have to do that. And like I said, once you do, it's not usually something you have to do a bunch, right? Your dog just needs to know that you actually mean it. They need to take you seriously now, um, because you gotta remember that's not how they see you.
24:00 — Watch for rising excitement at the front door, in the car, and when entering…
Usually when your dog goes home, um, they just, you know, already have a history, um, attached to you. They already have a relationship built that now they need to see has changed. And so, you know, usually we're also letting small moments go. Like owners often, I think, don't see the same things we see. And so some of those moments tend to get missed, which might not be a big deal, right? But it could be. So what I mean by that is the dog starts getting excited and it's not being addressed. Uh, this might be as small as like how your dog behaves at the front door on your way out.
It might be how your dog's behaving in the car or when they get out of the car. It might be when you first walk into this environment that you're going to, right? If you let your dog go through that sequence of getting more aroused, getting more stimulated, and you're not addressing it, that arousal is just going click, click, click, click, click, click, right?
Like a rollercoaster <laugh>, and then it's just like off the cliff. Um, and then it, it's too hard. Things are gonna go sideways. So your best bet is to really try to follow the instructions to a T and address those small moments of arousal, right? But those are the moments. Everyone says, well, I don't mind that. And it's like, I get it. But that plays a role in how your dog is going to respond to you, right? You literally are teaching your dog how to control their arousal. If you don't do that, everything stays harder.
And for the record, I'm not saying you can't do it that way, right? But here's the thing. If you're gonna let your dog get excited at the door, get excited in the car, get excited when they get outta the car, fine, then when you call your dog and they're beelining toward another dog, a squirrel, whatever it is, you're gonna have to turn this sucker way up and make your dog scream like a banshee.
And that's your fault. And I'm not saying it's always your fault, like sometimes that's just the way it is, but you've let that arousal get completely out of control. You've given them the autonomy, you've let things go off a cliff, and now you're trying to reel it back in. It's like you're waiting until the most challenging moment to have any conversation at all. And so you're gonna have to yell, and I don't mean with your voice, I mean with your e-collar. Whereas if you're having those conversations throughout the day and you're telling your dog, nope, I want you to do this.
Nope, I want you to do that. It's not appropriate to get that excited right now. We don't stare at other dogs that way. If you're having those conversations and you have expectations and standards throughout the day, your dog is less aroused, right? You make them hold it down in the car. When they get out of the car, they have to stay right with you and settle.
That's a different dog than a dog that is ahead of you going out the front door, is pacing in the car, is getting out of the car, and they're scanning the environment for other dogs. That's a different dog. That's a dog that is going to lose it, right? And you are going to have to, um, come in much, much hotter and higher with your consequences. So it's like, if you want to be able to be gentler with your e-collar, then have more conversations with it. That's how you do that, right? But people are afraid to turn up the heat or they're afraid to just use it for the small moments throughout the day, which is how we build the communication and we build the relationship.
27:00 — Reason one: owners tell themselves stories about their dogs’ feelings that interfere with following…
So you don't wanna avoid it, <laugh>. That's not how you build the communication.
Of course not. Um, but like I said, number two and number one, we're gonna be, um, have some overlap. And so lastly, number one, uh, which overlaps with being afraid to turn up the heat, is people tell themselves a story <laugh>. So people tell themselves a story about, um, how their dog is confused, right? So then that gives them an excuse not to do it, right? Oh, I don't need to hold my dog accountable anymore because I say he's confused. Um, they make up a story about how their dog is afraid, right? So anytime their dog doesn't wanna do something, is acting like a monkey, is avoiding or playing keep-away, any of these things, right?
It's automatically the dog is fearful or afraid. So we have some dogs, um, you know, they'll kind of do this thing where they're trying to get away from you and you go to put their collars on and people say, oh, he's so fearful of his collar. And it's like, no, no, he is not.
So you really can't have a dog that's afraid of a collar because the collar itself doesn't do anything. The handler does. What, what your collars do is entirely up to you. Um, but we do see dogs that are just monkeys about putting anything on them, right? We've had dogs do that with harnesses too. Like, not that we use them, but we have people come in here that are like, I can't get her flat collar on. I can't get a leash on, I can't get a harness on, right? But no one's saying they're fearful of those things because it's a story we make up in our head.
And again, it gives you an excuse to not have to do it, right? Oh, my dog's afraid, I, I don't have to do it. We make up a story about, you know, how we're damaging our relationship or we're stripping our dog of their personality, and again, gives you a free pass, right? Oh, don't have to do it. Gives your dog a free pass. It doesn't have to do it. So be very, very careful about the story that you invent to go with what you're seeing. Humans tend to way overthink things. And I'm not saying that dogs are never afraid or that they never panic, um, but most of the time when that happens, it's either a dog that is genetically just wired to be nervous, um, or maybe they've just never experienced accountability, and it makes them uncomfortable.
And in that case, we just have to work them through that. They have to get used to, things are now non-negotiable, right? And that's not a bad thing. That's a thing that could save their life. That's a thing that's going to give them more freedom. That's not a bad thing. So even if your dog is nervous, even if your dog is uncomfortable, um, you're doing them a disservice by just caving to that and saying, well, that's all right. You don't have to do it.
It's like, no, you, you're not gonna get any of the value out of any of this, and neither are they, right? So, and I'm not picking on people here, but it's like, take a look in the mirror. 'Cause like, maybe you're partially responsible for creating a dog that has such a weak, soft, sensitive state of mind, right? And maybe you're not, maybe it's entirely genetic, but, um, if your dog crumbles simply because things are non-negotiable, that's not healthy, and that needs to be overcome. So you can't let that get in your way. But most of the time what we see is dogs are actually totally fine.
I mean, I've had, I've done lessons with people. I, one comes to mind every time I talk about this, I had a, an older couple with a human-aggressive German shepherd, and during our training lesson, we got to talking about something and the dog laid down and went to sleep and was just lying on the floor, very comfortable, soundly sleeping. And the woman actually looked at me and told me that her dog was terrified in that moment.
I had a couple with a couple of giant Bernese mountain dogs, um, wonderful dogs. And the female dog was just really a clown, did her own thing. Kind of thought it was funny, I think, to, to get a rise out of people and like play keep-away. And just was like, nah, I'm not doing this right now. We'll just go the other way. Um, that's what I saw. But the woman in that scenario, and it was the woman both times, but trust me, that's a coincidence. We, we get just as many men in here who make up these same stories.
She believed her dog was terrified of the e-collar training. And you know, if somebody believes that, there's nothing I'm gonna say to convince them otherwise, right? I will tell them what I know, that's what they're paying me for. I will tell them what I see. Um, but at the end of the day, if they continue to tell themselves this thing, then it's just true in their mind and it's gonna get in their way and it's gonna hamper their results. And chances are they're just not even going to do the things that need to be done, uh, which is a shame, right?
But this dog just happily sauntered off, just didn't wanna, didn't wanna do any of the stuff we were doing. Um, tail was up and wagging, right? So a dog that's terrified is gonna be cowering with its tail down. Um, and that wasn't even happening at all, right?
But sometimes dogs panic, um, just because they do have a, a holy shit moment, right? And that's not the same as like your dog being a fearful dog. It's like there's just a moment in time where they know they're usually clowns and they know that being a clown will get them in trouble. And so they might have a moment of, oh God, oh God, what do I do? What do I do? Right? And so what, so what? So you stay calm and quiet and you work 'em through it with whatever they need, right? If they need accountability, you provide accountability.
34:00 — Kati recommends calm, quiet guidance to show dogs what to do during difficult moments.
If they just need calm, quiet guidance, give them calm, quiet guidance, right? But you get them from point A to point B and you show them what you want and you move on. And guess what? It'll get a little easier every time.
Um, but if you choose to make a big deal out of small moments where your dog seems like they might be confused or they might be nervous, um, then you just get nowhere, right? You just stay stuck. So stop telling yourself stories about what your dog is feeling and about why they're feeling it and about all the problems that's gonna cause because it's just not. And sometimes dogs are just born that way, right? We have Jenny here right now. She is really uncomfortable with the training we're doing, right? And it's not that anything bad is happening.
We haven't even done anything challenging yet, <laugh>. So we're just doing really basic, simple reps, right? And she'll just stress pant, shake, the whole nine because some dogs just do, right? And nothing bad is happening. So for us to accommodate that and say, oh, well, you just don't have to do it, then we're, we would be doing her a huge disservice. She deserves the training.
Um, that's how I see it. But be careful about what you're telling yourself, right? Even if your dog is nervous or scared in a certain situation, even if your dog is stressed, that doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong. It doesn't mean that it's bad. It doesn't, it doesn't mean anything necessarily, right? And it's like, if you have questions, reach out. Right? If you used me, reach out to me. If you used someone else, reach out to them and ask your questions. But just be really careful about the stories <laugh> that you're coming up with, um, in your head about your dog's state of mind, what they're feeling and why they're feeling it.
'Cause it's really dangerous and they're not humans. They don't speak English. They'll never be able to tell you what's going on. Um, but at the end of the day, it's like I always say, your dog learns through patterns and it's your job to just provide a consistent pattern. At the end of the day, that usually resolves any confusion and any anxiety. Hey guys, thanks for joining us today. I really hope you enjoyed the show. If there's a specific topic you'd like to hear discussed, you can send that to me directly via email or fan mail.
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